Why We Need To Heal

In this episode Miriam talks about the art of healing and how it can not only transform ourselves but also impact those around us.

So many families are scarred by generational trauma, if we work to heal it in ourselves we can avoid passing on it on to our children.



  • We inherit many things from our families, genes, traditions and trauma too. We learn negative and unhelpful ways of dealing and coping with situations from those surrounding us growing up, which then affects all areas of our lives.
  • Anxiety and depression in adulthood can be a consequence of suffering from generational trauma. We often don’t know where the source of these problems are, but if we can unpick what patterns we have created and unburden ourselves from the shame then we can begin to heal. It takes a conscious effort to recognise these patterns of behaviour and change them.
  • Just because we talk about and face generational trauma, it doesn’t mean we are criticising our parents or blaming them in any way. Often parents and families are just trying to get through life and survive, in any way they know how.
  • Generational trauma comes with a lot of secrets that are not allowed to be talked about. When there are secrets and shame, people cannot talk freely, so these things manifest in other ways.




The people who bear the burden are the weakest members of the family, most of the time, these are children”


“Children get born into fears and feelings that do not belong to them”


“To transform something we have to recognise, with compassion, that certain patterns are fruit of trauma, pain and oppression”



Book: It didn’t start with you by Mark Wolynn



Miriam is a Trauma Informed Coach, an African, a mom of three daughters, a blogger and writer.  After graduating from the London School of Economics, she built her international career in the fields of banking and international development, working for organisations such as the World Economic Forum, Lombard Odier Private Bank, JP Morgan, the Mastercard Foundation and the United Nations. She now uses her passion for psychology and dedicates her time to coaching others to free themselves from the burden of childhood trauma.  Her wish to help other women connect to their inner wisdom, love themselves and follow their passion. In her effort to destigmatize mental health and normalize mental health conversations in black communities, she wrote her memoir about surviving childhood and finding her worth.  


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